Divorcing parents often have some contentious matters between them, especially where custody is concerned. Working with your ex as cooperatively as possible to come up with the terms of your parenting plan can benefit everyone.
When you’re working on a custody agreement and parenting plan, it helps to have some ground rules in place that you and your soon-to-be-ex-spouse can use to guide your interactions.
Three rules parents should follow while sorting out custody issues
Have a frank discussion with your co-parent and see if you can agree to the following boundaries:
1. Respectful communication is a must.
Both parties must be respectful toward each other because being disrespectful can cause strife during communication. Unless there is an urgent situation, walking away and thinking about how various options impact the children may be beneficial if things get heated.
2. The past needs to be left in the past.
You can’t live in the past so it’s best to leave that alone. While the issues that led to the marriage’s end might be at the front of your mind, you can’t allow them to come into the middle of the child custody matters. Some people find that it helps to remember that even a person who was a terrible spouse can be a wonderful parent.
3. The children always come first.
Every decision that’s made in the custody negotiations must be made based on what’s best for the children. This isn’t the right time to try to make your ex miserable. Think about how trying to make things hard for your ex could negatively impact your kids. That might help you to stay focused on what’s important.
The parenting plan you create must address the points that you’ll need to know as you and your ex handle matters related to the children. Your attorney can help you to ensure these points are included in the agreement.