Assessing your relationship when considering divorce

Keeping a relationship strong and resolving serious issues is not an easy task. Of course, many couples are able to recognize when a problem has arisen, how to see the other person’s point of view and determine what courses of action could help rectify the situation. Unfortunately, not all issues see such proactive measures.

You may be among the many Missouri residents who have considered divorce at some point throughout your marriage. At first, it may have simply come as a passing thought in the heat of the moment during a fight. More recently, however, it may come across your mind more and more often.

Are signs pointing toward divorce?

Because ending a marriage is such a major event, you undoubtedly want to feel as if you are making the right choice if you decide to take this step. As you work to make that decision, you may want to closely assess your relationship. If you are simply going through a rough patch, filing a divorce petition may not suit your circumstances. However, if any of the following issues are present, your relationship may be more than a little rough:

  • Your spouse has an addiction and is not seeking help. Though many relationships involving someone with a substance abuse issue can continue to thrive, it is less likely to happen if that person refuses treatment for the problem.
  • You treat each other with contempt. Contempt often signifies a loss of respect in the relationship, and if there is no respect, there is also likely no healthy relationship.
  • You think about starting another relationship. While some people often have passing thoughts of attraction toward others, you may need to reassess your marriage if you find yourself seriously considering a relationship with another person.
  • Your partner refuses to talk about your marital issues. You may want to give your relationship a fighting chance, but if your spouse refuses to talk to you about the problems and work out solutions, he or she may have already given up.

Of course, it is important to remember that these indicators may not necessarily mean you will get a divorce. Additionally, your relationship could have issues not related to those listed here. Because each relationship is unique, it is important that you focus on your specific circumstances.

What can you do?

Even if you have not yet fully decided to file for divorce, it may still work in your best interests to gain information on the process and laws associated with it. Having this information could play a role in your decision and could also give you a head start in the event that you do choose to file for divorce. Speaking with an attorney could allow you to gain reliable information.


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